"We're the most unpartnered people in the United States" From the Movie, Soulmates. Referring to Black Women.
23:7 For as (s)he thinketh in
hisher heart, so is (s)he: Eat and drink, saith (s)he to thee; but hisherheart is not with thee.
The sky is falling! I saw this probably close to a year ago. THAT was before the 70% unmarried Black women statistic started floating around. One of my friends has seen the movie and she said that it depressed the heck out of her.
This is an award winning film:
Best Documentary at the Hollywood Black Film Festival, Winner Best Documentary Urban Vestige Film Festival, Best Feature Film and Audience Choice Award at the African American Women In Film Festival in New York City and Best Documentary in the San Francisco Christian Film Festival. It was also voted Best Documentary among Black films in 2006 by acclaimed film critic Kam Williams.
SO who has seen this movie and is our plight REALLY that bad? Is this more propaganda aimed at giving Black women ONE MORE THING to worry about? Is Essence magazine behind this movie? Something about all this just ain't sitting right with me.
Speaking of documentaries, have y'all heard of "America the Beautiful" by Darryl Roberts?
America the Beautiful is my 2 year journey into the world of beauty obsession, pop culture and plastic surgery. Leading up to this sadistic epiphany, you couldn't turn on the TV without seeing some new television show about someone trying to be a top model or someone getting nipped or tucked. That's when it hit me - we're on a quest for physical perfection. That's our "latest craze."
So what does all this mean for Black women and girls? Do some folks still think that what we see and hear has zero influence on how we see ourselves, how we see others and how others see us? What if the images are overly pessimistic or just downright inaccurate. What if the crisis isn't a crisis, but a mere fiction created by the entertainment industry and the media. I am not saying reality is one way or another, I am just asking the question.
We all need to question any and everything that is generated out of Los Angeles,CA these days.
If you know of another documentary, preferably one produced by an African American woman ( a sane one (y'all know who I am talking about)), hit me up . The only way we are going to combat foolishness is to provide an alternative. I think we need a documentary called " Black Women Rock!" I didn't come up with that title, but is there a documentary talking about how wonderful our lives are? Then again, people don't usually make documentaries if they are happy...
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I think we have to be careful prophesying negatively over our race. Statistically speaking, Black people are the worst people on the Earth. I think some of us are starting believe or buy into these negative stereotypes. Give me a break.
I learned from the Bible as a man thinks, so is he.
In fact, what we continuously confess or say, we become.
LET US THINK, SPEAK, AND DO BETTER!!!!
Yeah, I think that that is what was so dayum unsettling about this. It is so gloomy that you start to wonder which came first? The pessimism or the negative outcome? How could Black women change their lives if we stopped drinking the Koolaid that the sky is falling? Is there a balance between being aware of concerns versus letting them define who we are. The Soulmate movie looks like one of the Essence Magazine articles about the plight of the single Black woman ... ON STEROIDS. If we keep repeating the " We all gone die alone and childless to be eaten by nine cats" mantra, aren't we making it more likely that that will be our fate?
IF this is our image of ourselves, how would others view us? Also, since when has being in the majority of anything ever meant you were in a weaker position? If we outnumber Black men, doesn't that also mean we have the ability to increase the number of eligible men by raising standards? Which came first? Lower standards or fewer people meeting those standards.
I've been guilty in indulging in my own pessimism on occasion, but I am so tired of the gloom and doom associated with Black women. Its a wonder we can get up and go to work in the morning. Why bother? We're doomed! Doomed, I tell ya
Speak on it.