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Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Do You Know Where Your Daughter Is?: Parenting Tips From The Childless

Well on yesterday, the NAACP National Office's Director of Communications, Richard McIntire, decided to get a jump start on April Fool's Day and put out a statement related to Dunbar Village where the organization declared that the sky was purple. I waited all day for a retraction from Richard entitled "Sike! April Fool's", but alas I think the man was serious.

So while we let the NAACP's statement percolate throughout the Black blogosphere for 24 hours or so, I thought we would take a break to clean out the old inbox on a backlog of stories. First up is another edition of Parenting Tips From The Childless (PTFTC)- Because who knows better how to raise your children than folks without any! Today’s edition is called DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR DAUGHTERS ARE???

Fathers of Black America, do you know where your daughters are? Well if your daughter is 3 and a half years old right now and she is not in your presence, she might be getting her head dunked in a toilet bowl while one of her Mama's "friends/relatives" repeatedly slams the toilet seat down on her head as she screams in terror. Oh yeah and while your 3 year old daughter is being half drowned and beaten, one of her tormentors is filming on their cell phone camera. Oh and they aren’t finished they also think its funny to lift your three year old daughter by her underwear (painful to watch) and sling her around. Oh yeah and MAMA??? Mama was UPSTAIRS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! While all of this was going on.

"My daughter should not be taken away from her mom...not at all. a female child should always have a female in their life which is her mom."
But where was Wilker while this was going on? She says she was upstairs cleaning, heard the screams and laughing, and yelled for the adults to leave her child alone.
"I didn't know nothing about no video at that point at all."WTOL
UM “NO” some mothers aren’t fit to be so . Like a mama who sees her child being abused on tape and won’t cooperate with police or demand that the perps be prosecutors to the fullest extent of the law. Let’s hope that the father has twice the sense Mama has. Black fathers here are some links so you can try to reclaim your child if your Baby Mama is as attentive as this one. Fathers Rights. Org, The Mens Center, and y'all even have your very own "Fathers Rights" wiki. Get on it!

PTFTC: Here is my parenting tip from the childless, how about peeking your head downstairs when your child is screaming in terror.. I know there is no manual for parenting, but really, it ain’t rocket science.(On an unrelated note, why do the Mama and the Daddy BOTH have the same head scarf on? I mean I like my head wrap just like anybody else, but you knew you were going to be on TV-- Is that a Cleveland thing or something?)

Is Your 12 Year Old Dancing on a Pole? No way? You sure about that?
Mothers and fathers of Black America, do you know where your daughters are? Well if your daughter is a 12 or 13 year old Black girl in Dallas, Texas, she might be naked right now dancing on the stage of a strip club or turning tricks in the champagne room in the back. Sorry, again, this is not an April Fool's joke- 12 an 13 years old on the stage in Dallas, TX.

Oh yes my friends 12 and 13. Now in one case, involving the 12 year old, she was taken in by a 27 year old BLACK WOMAN when the girl ran away from home. Of course the 27 year old was a stripperhooker and took the girl down to the club to fill out and application and when the girl couldn’t figure out what year she needed to have been born in to get the “job” the strip club manager was more than happy to help her with the math. KHOU

PTFTC: So Black parents you may want to have the “if you ever run away from home and get taken in by a stripper chances are she is working for a PIMP and PIMPs are BAD” conversation with your daughters.

Most of you will write off the case of the 12 year old because she was a “run-away” and your preciousness would NEVER run away from home so lets talk about the 13 year old to creep all of the “good ” parents out. The 13 year-old was not a run away… she went to a sleep over at another 13 year old’s house and somehow found herself at the strip club. Now we all know the 13 year olds didn’t drive themselves to the strip club and the police say that the 13 year old LOOKED 13. Int he case of the 12 year old mentioned above, her brain deficient Mama told the newspaper her daughter looked 20---geez mom, you're the BEST!

The family of a 13-year-old girl still can't understand how a sleepover at a schoolmate's house went so wrong. [um probably because you had no clue about the company your daughter was keeping]

"I just can't believe it," said the teen's grandmother, who requested that her name not be used. "She's acting like she doesn't know why she did it or why she went."
The suspect, also 13, is accused of compelling prostitution, a second-degree felony that involves causing "by any means a person younger than 17 years to commit prostitution."

When undercover officers entered Metropolis early Saturday, the 13-year-old suspect's friend approached an officer and made a deal to perform a sex act for money, police say. Both girls were then taken into custody.
"It wasn't hard to spot her as a 13-year-old kid," Sgt. Fassett said. "You just take one look at her."
Vice unit officers were at the club to investigate reports that alcohol was being served after hours. DALLAS MORNING NEWS

I’ve got $5 that says that the parents or grandparents of the 13 year old who was a “good student” didn’t know a lick about the family or activities or the home where they let their daughter go for a sleep over.

Her grandmother said she is a good student and hasn't been in trouble before.
"She's not even that kind of person,"
Hmm notice how only the grandmother is speaking, where are the PARENTS???

Now city officials in Dallas are saying they can’t shut the clubs down. I say who needs the city, why isn’t every black pastor in Dallas,TX planning a curbside prayer meeting at these two clubs? You got to be a bold pervert to walk past a group of praying saints to stroll up in a club that is notorious for having 12 and 13 year olds dancing on the stage. What are y’all doing in the big D? Shut em down, you don’t have to wait on the city. Go convert some souls outside Metropolis and Diamonds because clearly some need saved and there needs to be some laying of the hands up on some folks who don't blink at putting 12 year olds into the sex trade.

So let this be a lesson to the parental units of America, even if you have taught your daughter well. I doubt you’ve had the “Stripping is really NOT a Good Thing” conversation.

PTFTC: The next time you catch your children listening, watching, or reading about pimps, strippers, and opulence, take a few minutes out to have THE TALK. Tell them about the underbelly of stripper culture. Show them a few news clippings of what pimps really do. Let them watch a documentary or two about the child sex trade. Because if they’re learning about the “glamorous” life of moving your body like a cyclone, they might as well see the gory ---make your sons watch too.

For those who say not necessary because you have “good” kids and you watch them like a hawk and you alone can compete with the culture I ask, do they have a radio, television, computer? Yes? Ask them who Bishop Don Majic Juan ( I am mad he has an flash website with an online marketplace and a shopping cart) is. Ask them if they know the chorus to “I‘m in love with a Stripper” If they know…its too late.

This concludes our latest PTFTC. Please my parental readers. Your thoughts are always appreciated in response to these and other… PARENTING TIPS FROM THE CHILDLESS…. Until next time …unfortunately.